D\u00dcN B\u0130RB\u0130RLER\u0130N\u0130 \u00d6VENLER, BUG\u00dcN NEDEN B\u0130RB\u0130RLER\u0130N\u0130 KARALIYOR?
\u015eER\u0130F AKAR\u00c7E\u015eME \u2013 K\u00d6\u015eE YAZISI
Hayat ne garip de\u011fil mi?
Daha d\u00fcne kadar ayn\u0131 masada oturanlar, ayn\u0131 sofrada ekmek yiyenler, birbirlerinin omuzlar\u0131na ellerini koyup dostluk nutuklar\u0131 atanlar, bug\u00fcn birbirlerinin arkas\u0131ndan s\u00f6ylemedik s\u00f6z b\u0131rakm\u0131yor.
D\u00fcn birbirlerine methiyeler d\u00fczenler, bug\u00fcn birbirlerinin kusurlar\u0131n\u0131 ortaya d\u00f6kmek i\u00e7in adeta yar\u0131\u015f\u0131yor.
\u0130nsan ister istemez soruyor:
D\u00fcn m\u00fc yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordunuz, bug\u00fcn m\u00fc?
D\u00fcn yere g\u00f6\u011fe s\u0131\u011fd\u0131ramad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z insanlar bug\u00fcn nas\u0131l oldu da d\u00fcnyan\u0131n en k\u00f6t\u00fc insanlar\u0131 h\u00e2line geldi?
Yoksa mesele dostluk de\u011fil de menfaat miydi?
\u0130\u015fte toplumumuzun en b\u00fcy\u00fck hastal\u0131klar\u0131ndan biri de bu: Riyak\u00e2rl\u0131k!
Menfaat varken dost, menfaat bitince d\u00fc\u015fman olan insanlar\u0131n say\u0131s\u0131 ne yaz\u0131k ki az de\u011fil.
Bir zamanlar birbirlerine \u00f6vg\u00fcler ya\u011fd\u0131ranlar\u0131n, \u00e7\u0131kar ili\u015fkileri sona erdi\u011finde nas\u0131l ac\u0131mas\u0131zca birbirlerine sald\u0131rd\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz.
\u00dcstelik bunu yapanlar s\u0131radan insanlar da de\u011fil.
Siyasette, ticarette, b\u00fcrokraside, sivil toplum kurulu\u015flar\u0131nda, hatta y\u0131llarca ayn\u0131 davay\u0131 savundu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyenlerin aras\u0131nda bile bu manzaralara rastl\u0131yoruz.
D\u00fcn birinin yan\u0131nda foto\u011fraf \u00e7ektirmek i\u00e7in s\u0131raya girenler, bug\u00fcn o insan\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131 bile duymak istemiyor.
D\u00fcn yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 her i\u015fi alk\u0131\u015flad\u0131klar\u0131 ki\u015filerin, bug\u00fcn att\u0131klar\u0131 her ad\u0131m\u0131 ele\u015ftiriyorlar.
D\u00fcn bildikleri yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 g\u00f6rmezden gelenler, bug\u00fcn o yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 herkese anlat\u0131yor.
Peki, o yanl\u0131\u015flar d\u00fcn de yanl\u0131\u015f de\u011fil miydi?
Madem bu kadar \u00e7ok \u015fey biliyordunuz, neden o g\u00fcn sustunuz?
Neden menfaatleriniz devam ederken konu\u015fmad\u0131n\u0131z?
Neden \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131n\u0131z zarar g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flay\u0131nca birdenbire do\u011fruluk ve d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck abidesi kesildiniz?
\u0130\u015fte as\u0131l sorgulanmas\u0131 gereken mesele budur.
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck, menfaat bitince hat\u0131rlanacak bir erdem de\u011fildir.
D\u00dcR\u00dcSTL\u00dcK, \u0130\u015e\u0130NE GELMED\u0130\u011e\u0130NDE DE DO\u011eRUYU S\u00d6YLEYEB\u0130LMEKT\u0130R!
Elbette insanlar anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011fa d\u00fc\u015febilir. Dostluklar bitebilir, yollar ayr\u0131labilir. D\u00fcn ayn\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi payla\u015fanlar bug\u00fcn farkl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flere sahip olabilir.
Bunlar\u0131n hepsi hayat\u0131n do\u011fal ak\u0131\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.
Ancak yollar\u0131n ayr\u0131lmas\u0131 ba\u015fka, ge\u00e7mi\u015fte birlikte y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn insan\u0131 karalamak ba\u015fka bir \u015feydir.
Bir insanla dostlu\u011funuz bitebilir ama karakteriniz bitmemeli.
Bir insanla \u00e7\u0131kar ili\u015fkiniz sona erebilir ama ahlak\u0131n\u0131z sona ermemeli.
Hele hele d\u00fcn bildi\u011finiz s\u0131rlar\u0131, bug\u00fcn bir intikam arac\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcyorsan\u0131z ortada dostluk de\u011fil, ba\u015f\u0131ndan beri kurulmu\u015f bir menfaat ortakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 vard\u0131r.
Bug\u00fcn baz\u0131lar\u0131na bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda \u015funu g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz:
Menfaat sa\u011flad\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrece herkes iyi, herkes d\u00fcr\u00fcst, herkes ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131!
Ama i\u015fler tersine d\u00f6n\u00fcnce ayn\u0131 insanlar birdenbire k\u00f6t\u00fc, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z, hatta g\u00fcvenilmez oluveriyor.
Ne de\u011fi\u015fti? \u0130nsanlar m\u0131, yoksa menfaatler mi?
Asl\u0131nda de\u011fi\u015fen \u00e7o\u011fu zaman insanlar\u0131n karakteri de\u011fil, birbirlerinden beklentileridir.
D\u00fcn alk\u0131\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bug\u00fcn yuhalayan, d\u00fcn savundu\u011funu bug\u00fcn su\u00e7layan, d\u00fcn yan\u0131nda durdu\u011fu insan\u0131 bug\u00fcn yerden yere vuran ki\u015fi \u00f6nce kendi ge\u00e7mi\u015fine bakmal\u0131d\u0131r.
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bug\u00fcn k\u00f6t\u00fcledi\u011fi insan\u0131n d\u00fcn en b\u00fcy\u00fck destek\u00e7ilerinden biri kendisiydi.
O h\u00e2lde kamuoyunun da sormas\u0131 gereken bir soru var:
Madem bu insanlar bu kadar k\u00f6t\u00fcyd\u00fc, siz y\u0131llarca neden yanlar\u0131ndayd\u0131n\u0131z?
Menfaatiniz oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in mi sustunuz?
Yoksa menfaatiniz bitti\u011fi i\u00e7in mi konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flad\u0131n\u0131z?
Unutmayal\u0131m ki insan\u0131n ger\u00e7ek karakteri, her \u015fey yolundayken de\u011fil, \u00e7\u0131karlar\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar.
Ger\u00e7ek dost, menfaati bitince d\u00fc\u015fman kesilmeyen insand\u0131r.
Ger\u00e7ek insanl\u0131k, yollar ayr\u0131lsa bile ge\u00e7mi\u015fte payla\u015f\u0131lan ekme\u011fin hat\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 unutmamakt\u0131r.
Ve ger\u00e7ek d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck, d\u00fcn s\u00f6yledi\u011fin s\u00f6z\u00fcn bug\u00fcn de arkas\u0131nda durabilmektir.
Benim anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131ma g\u00f6re dostluk bir al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f de\u011fildir.
\u0130nsan ili\u015fkileri de alacak verecek defteri gibi tutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r.
Bug\u00fcn birinden fayda sa\u011fl\u0131yorum diye onu g\u00f6klere \u00e7\u0131karmak, yar\u0131n fayda sa\u011flayam\u0131yorum diye yerin dibine sokmak ne dostlu\u011fa ne insanl\u0131\u011fa ne de ahlaka s\u0131\u011far.
SON S\u00d6Z\u00dcM \u015eUDUR:
D\u00fcn dost oldu\u011funuz insan bug\u00fcn d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131n\u0131z olabilir. Ama bu, d\u00fcn birlikte ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z her \u015feyi ink\u00e2r etmenizi gerektirmez.
Kimse kimseyi sevmek zorunda de\u011fildir. Ancak herkes kendi s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ve ge\u00e7mi\u015finin sorumlulu\u011funu ta\u015f\u0131mak zorundad\u0131r.
D\u00fcn \u00f6vd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc bug\u00fcn karalayan insan, asl\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinden \u00e7ok kendi samimiyetini tart\u0131\u015fmaya a\u00e7ar.
Ve unutmay\u0131n…
Menfaatle kurulan dostluk, menfaat bitince sona erer. Ama karakter sahibi insan, dostlu\u011fu bitse bile insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmez!
\u015eER\u0130F AKAR\u00c7E\u015eME
Ku\u015fa Haber \u2013 K\u00f6\u015fe Yaz\u0131s\u0131
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